Sunday, May 15, 2011

HOW TO SPOIL YOUR CHILDREN - Parenting Teenagers

HOW TO SPOIL YOUR CHILDREN - Parenting Teenagers

PARENTING TEENAGERS
HOW TO SPOIL YOUR CHILDREN
The TIME, INCLINATION, OPPORTUNITY, MONEYParenting Paradigm
By
VIKRAM KARVE
It seems to be the in thing today to have snobbish supercilious spoilt children.

I was a strict old-fashioned father, but looking around, I have realized that in today’s world, where materialistic desires and ostentation overshadow traditional values, my ascetic style of parenting is hopelessly outmoded and distinctly passé.

It’s too late for me to change now, so let me pontificate a bit on what I did not do.
Apart from the conventional vices like drinking, smoking, drugs, gambling etc, all types of new and novel temptations and addictions like Internet, Gaming, TV, sex, compulsive spending and shopping, indulging in wild reckless behaviour, breaking the law and criminal thrills are on the rise and indeed becoming status symbols in some sections of society. Now-a-days there is plenty of choice available for those who want to “live it up” and freaking out and "pub culture" is the in thing.

For children in today’s consumerist society there is no place for old-fashioned concepts like "thrift and frugality"and being happy where you are and content with what you have.

Conspicuous consumption, ostentation, flamboyance and expensive lifestyles are more important. Pamper your kids, pander to all their whims and fancies and they will love you; and, of course, in the long run they will ruin their own lives and cause you distress.
If you want to spoil your children remember there are four cardinal factors or resources that help develop and nurture bad habits, addictions and anti-social behaviour: TIME, INCLINATION, OPPORTUNITY, MONEY.
TIME: One must have time to indulge in whatever one’s pursuits, good or bad. So, if you want to spoil your children, don’t burden them with too many “mundane” things like studies, sports, hobbies etc. so that they have plenty of leisure time to live it up, develop new vices and pursue their temptations to their heart’s content.
INCLINATION: This depends on your sense of values, home and family atmosphere, social environment, religious and cultural taboos, peer pressure, influence of school and friends. Are you inculcating the right values in your kids by your own actions?
I’ll give you a real life example. My friend’s son, age 15, lost his expensive mobile cell-phone forgetting it in a taxi due to his own carelessness and negligence. Instead of admonishing him, my friend bought him the latest, even more expensive and fancy cell-phone. Obviously the boy had no remorse, guilt or regret at losing the expensive gadget, and instead of feeling contrite and responsible, displayed a “couldn’t care” attitude. Certainly this kid will not have value for money.

Can one even expect such actions of parents to inculcate the "correct" values of thrift, frugality and responsibility in their children?

If you drink, smoke, and party in front of your children, won’t they be inclined to do the same?

How about your friends, your kids’ friends, their behaviour, and the general atmosphere and culture around?

What are your own values? If you’re going to “live it up”, flaunt your lifestyle, be corrupt and dishonest, your kids will be inclined to do so too!
OPPORTUNITY : You have the Time, you have the Inclination, but do you have the opportunity to do what you want to do?

Suppose you want to drink alcohol, but there is prohibition in force? Or there exist religious, social, cultural taboos which do not give you the opportunity to drink? This restraining forces will inhibit you from drinking alcohol.

Opportunity to indulge in an activity is governed by external circumstances, rules and regulations, which either inhibits you or makes it conducive for you to do what you want.

Enforcement of Restrictions like No-Smoking Zones, Prohibition, No Entry into Bars and Pubs for Kids inhibits opportunity for children to start drinking at an early age.

Or do you want to give your kids a laissez faire opportunity to do what they want…?
MONEY: If you want to spoil your children make sure you give them plenty ofmoney to splurge and to do as they please.

“Vices” and profligate lifestyles are expensive. Give them the latest gadgets and gizmos, cars and bikes, pander to all their whims and fancies, and never ask them to account for their extravagant spending.

You’ve open-mindedly given your kids the time, the inclination, and theopportunity, but finally it’s the money that matters - yes, it is money that helps them sustain their vices and habits.

Go ahead, give it a try, spoil your brats, and tell me if it works

But if you don’t want to spoil your teenager kids, you know what to do, don’t you?

Just remember the four key factors:
Monitor their Time,
give them the proper Inclination in life,
restrict their Opportunity for undesirable activities,
and, last but not the least,
keep a tight leash on their Money.

Does this teenager parenting paradigm work for you…?
VIKRAM KARVE
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2011
Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work.
© vikram karve., all rights reserved.

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About Vikram Karve

A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer. Educated at IIT Delhi, ITBHU Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures(2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories, creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional research papers in journals and edited in-house journals for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for almost 14 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing. Vikram lives in Pune India with his family and muse - his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

Vikram Karve Academic and Creative Writing Journal: http://karvediat.blogspot.com
Professional Profile Vikram Karve: http://www.linkedin.com/in/karve
Vikram Karve Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/vikramkarve
Vikram Karve Creative Writing Blog: http://vikramkarve.sulekha.com/blog/posts.htm
Fiction Short Stories Book

© vikram karve., all rights reserved.
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MAKEOVER

MAKEOVER

MAKEOVER

The Beauty Trap
Cosmetic Engineering
Food for Thought and Implementation
By
VIKRAM KARVE

Are you happy with yourself as you are?

Think about it - close your eyes, reflect, and think about all aspects of your entire self - your body, your personality, your physical appearance, your mental faculties, your social graces, your talent and your soft skills.

Are you jealous of others? Especially, do you envy those who you think are "better" or "smarter" than you?

Do you crave to be like them and yearn to acquire all their qualities?

Are you obsessed with the quest for perfection?

Are you desperate for a "makeover" and trying all sorts of things in order to "improve" yourself - beauty parlours, gyms, personality "development", finishing schools, dance classes - anything and everything to change your personality in the desperate quest to become someone else.

Why are you not happy with yourself as you are?

If you are not happy with yourself as you are, then you must read this story:

Once there lived a Goat – an ordinary looking goat - who lived wild and free in the mountains.

One day while grazing in the forest, the goat saw a Giraffe, and the goat said to himself, “I wish my neck was as long as the giraffe.”

Lo and Behold!

The goat’s neck suddenly became as long as the giraffe’s.

Delighted, that he could now see far and wide, the goat saw an eagle flying high in the sky.

“I wish I had wings like that eagle,” wished the goat... and instantaneously, wings appeared on the goat’s body.

Thrilled, the goat flapped its newly acquired wings, when he suddenly he spotted a tortoise.

The goat admired the beautiful hard shell of the tortoise, and said to himself, “I wish I had a strong hard invincible body like the shell of the tortoise,” and instantly his wish was granted – the goat’s back turned into the shell of a tortoise.

The goat felt ecstatic and impregnable, till he suddenly saw a Cheetah speeding across the horizon running at high speed.

“I wish I had legs like the Cheetah,” the goat wished, and miracle of miracles, the goat’s legs immediately became like the Cheetah.

Now the goat was truly overjoyed, on cloud nine, till he saw the enchanting sight of a beautiful peacock with majestic feathers dancing magnificently.

“I wish I had gorgeous feathers like the peacock,” he wished, and in a jiffy the goat’s wish was granted, and the goat now had dazzling copious plume of colourful feathers.

Adorned with the neck of the giraffe, the wings of the eagle, the shell of the tortoise, the legs of the Cheetah and the feathers of the peacock, the Goat felt jubilant, supreme, regal, on top of the world, and strutted around grandiosely in majestic pride.

A Hunter passing by suddenly saw this unique stunning creature and he marvelled for a moment as he couldn’t believe his eyes.

The hunter stared in fascination and gawked enthralled and was mesmerized at the bizarre and fascinating creature he had never seen before.

After looking spellbound at the fantastic “Goat” for some time, the hunter recovered his wits and decided to capture this exotic priceless gem.

So the hunter cast his net, caught the “Goat” and sold this amazing “never-seen-before” and “one-of-its-kind” exclusive creature at an astronomical price to the zoo.

Large crowds gathered at the zoo, and everyone gaped in awe at this astonishingly exotic creature, fascinated by the awesome sight.

The exotic “Goat” spent the rest of its life in captivity locked up in a cage, weeping and crying, and he wondered why even those other ordinary goats, his erstwhile fellow brethren, who were wandering about freely and unnoticed in the zoo gardens, did not recognize him.


This apocryphal story, a parable, highlights the dangers of trying to be everything and exemplifies the ramifications of ensnaring yourself into the Beauty Trap of your own making.

Dear Reader, tell me, isn’t it better to accept ourselves as we are rather than chase elusive dreams of “perfect beauty”?

Why is it that we are not happy with ourselves as we are?

These days everybody wants to be “perfect” in all aspects, physically and intellectually.

Everyone wants to have a “picture perfect” body, a shapely figure “perfectly sculpted” in all dimensions, and look “perfectly beautiful”, and have a flawless complexion, and be absolutely “perfect”, and to achieve this goal some are ready to do all sorts of things, exoteric, even esoteric, maybe even go under the scalpel.

Even spiritually, you are constantly chasing elusive dreams of happiness and enlightenment, becoming a "seeker", trying to "improve" yourself, when the key to self enlightenment is inside you, waiting for you to look inwards and discover for yourself.

Why are we are not satisfied with ourselves as we are?

Why do we want to have all possible qualities and attributes, intellectual and physical?

Why do we try to "fake it" and try to wear a mask of pretence and develop "social graces" that are in conflict with our inner nature and basic personality?

Why are we obsessed with the quest for perfection?

Whenever you don't feel happy about yourself, as you are, and get obsessed with "improving" yourself, remember the story of the Goat who tried to be everything and lost his own identity and, most importantly, lost his freedom.
It is always best to be happy with your own unique identity, albeit not so perfect, rather than try to be everything and in the quest for perfection lose your own identity.


VIKRAM KARVE

Copyright © Vikram Karve 2011
Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work.
© vikram karve., all rights reserved.
Did you like this story?
I am sure you will like the 27 stories in COCKTAIL
To order your COCKTAIL please click any of the links below:

About Vikram Karve

A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer. Educated at IIT Delhi, ITBHU Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures(2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories, creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional research papers in journals and edited in-house journals for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for almost 14 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing. Vikram lives in Pune India with his family and muse - his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

Vikram Karve Academic and Creative Writing Journal: http://karvediat.blogspot.com
Professional Profile Vikram Karve: http://www.linkedin.com/in/karve
Vikram Karve Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/vikramkarve
Vikram Karve Creative Writing Blog: http://vikramkarve.sulekha.com/blog/posts.htm
Fiction Short Stories Book

© vikram karve., all rights reserved.


Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: ORGANISATIONAL BEHAVIOUR LECTURE SERIES Part 14 –...

Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: ORGANISATIONAL BEHAVIOUR LECTURE SERIES Part 14 –...:

"ORGANISATIONAL BEHAVIOUR LECTURE SERIES Part 14 – Ethical Decision Making Organisational EthicsETHICAL DECISION MAKINGByVIKRAM KARVE Honesty..."

ORGANISATIONAL BEHAVIOUR LECTURE SERIES Part 14 – Ethical Decision Making

ORGANISATIONAL BEHAVIOUR LECTURE SERIES Part 14 – Ethical Decision Making

Organisational Ethics
ETHICAL DECISION MAKING
By
VIKRAM KARVE

Honesty and Loyalty may be often deeply ingrained in the make-up of simple and humble people than in men of high position. A man who was taking bribes when he was a constable does not turn honest when he becomes the Chief of Police. The only thing that changes is the size of the bribe. Weakness of character and inability to withstand temptation remain with the man no matter how high he climbs.

INTRODUCTION

It is often stated that the most important resource of any organization is the Human Resource. This paper addresses the relevance of ethics in Human Resource (HR) Management and discusses various ethical and motivational aspects, including ethical values and ethical decision-making.

Ethics is an integral and vital aspect of Human Resource Management since most of our actions and decisions have ethical manifestations with consequential ramifications in the HR domain.

There is a general belief that ethics is concerned only with financial propriety. Whilst this aspect certainly involves ethics, ethical management is all encompassing concerning each and every facet of your professional and personal life.

There is a story, probably apocryphal, which illustrates this.

There was a cyclonic storm and millions of fish were washed ashore and were struggling for life on the beach. A man came to the beach and patiently began to pick up the fish, one by one, and throw them back into the sea. An amused passerby asked him what difference it would make, to which the man pointed to the fish in his hand and said, “Ask this fish?”

Thus, we see that seemingly routine decisions, which at the organizational level do not appear to have major ethical magnitude, have large ethical significance at the individual level.

The purpose of this paper is to give you a basic understanding of the fundamental concept of ethics, to have you reflect upon the relationship between your ethical values and your behaviour as an HR Manager and to show you how to develop a personalized approach to deal with ethical dilemmas. Even though only a small fraction of the workforce may indulge in unethical behaviour, it has serious ramifications on the organization as a whole and affects a large number of people who are stakeholders. Many of us do not even know whether certain of our actions and decisions have ethical implications or not and the consequences thereof.

DEFFINITON AND PURPOSE OF ETHICS

What is ethics and what does it deal with?

(a) Ethics is that set of behavioural standards that relate to a set of principles, values and ideals for human conduct. Ethics may be defined as ‘the standards of conduct which indicate how one should behave on moral duties and obligations’.

(b) Ethics deals with two aspects: the first involves one’s ability to distinguish right from wrong, good from evil and propriety from impropriety; the second involves the commitment to do what is good, right and proper.

CORE ETHICAL VALUES

Values are core beliefs, which guide or motivate attitudes and behaviour. They are the established ideals of life that members of a given society regard as desirable, Ethical Values are directly related to our beliefs concerning what is right, good and proper. They impose moral obligations and are concerned with our sense of moral duty.

The 10 core ethical values are:-
(i) Honesty
(ii) Integrity
(iii) Promise keeping
(iv) Loyalty
(v) Fairness
(vi) Concern and Caring for others
(vii) Respect for others
(viii) Responsible Citizenship
(ix) Pursuit of excellence
(x) Accountability

What are your core ethical values?

With how many of the above do they coincide?

Or, do you have other unique ethical values?

Before you can develop an approach to ethical decision making, you should invest some time and effort and attain a solid understanding of your own care ethical values.

ETHICAL DECISION MAKING

Ethical Perspectives of Decisions

There is an ethical dimension to every decision that can be evaluated in terms of its adherence to the previously discussed core ethical values. Thus any of your decisions, which affect other persons, have ethical implications, and virtually all of your important decisions reflect your sensitivity and commitment to ethics. In summary, as you perform your job in your workplace, you must examine what are the ethical dimensions as you deal with your superiors, peers. Subordinates and others connected with your work.

Different stakeholders have different ethical perspectives.

Take the case of organizational romance. Whereas, some organizations feel that there is nothing ethically wrong and many even encourage organizational romance, relationships or marriage among colleagues by giving various perks and incentives, some others may prohibit the same. Of course, sexual harassment would be universally considered unethical.

The process of ethical decision making

Ethical decision-making involves the process by which a person evaluates and chooses among alternatives in a manner consistent with his or her core ethical values or principles. Thus when you make an ethical decision you :

(a) Perceive and eliminate unethical options
(b) Select the best from several competing ethical alternatives.

Ethical decision-making requires more than a belief in the importance of ethics. It also requires sensitivity to perceive the ethical implications of your decisions; the ability to evaluate complex ambiguous and incomplete facts and the skill to implement ethical decision making without jeopardizing your career.

Ethical decision-making requires three things:
Ethical Commitment
Ethical Consciousness, and
Ethical Competence.

ETHICAL COMMITMENT

This is the strong desire to act ethically, to do the right thing, especially when ethics imposes financial, social or psychological costs. Regardless of profession, nearly all people believe they are and should be ethical. While most are not satisfied with the ethical quality of the society as a whole, they believe their profession is more ethical than others and they themselves are at least as ethical as those in their profession.

Unfortunately our behaviours do not consistently conform to our self-images and moral ambitions. As a result, a large number of decent people who are committed to ethical values regularly compromise these values- often because they lack the strength to follow their conscience.

Both in your professional and personal life, you will be confronted with a continuous stream of stream of studies in which your ethical commitment will be constantly will be constantly tested.

ETHICAL CONSCIOUNESS

While weakness of will explains a great deal of improper conduct, a much greater problem arises from our failure to perceive the ethical implications of our conduct. Many of us simply fail to apply our moral convictions to our daily behaviour.

Some of us do not always see ethical issues that are likely to trouble others. Sometimes perfectly legal conduct often appears to be ethically improper or inappropriate.

ETHICAL COMPETENCE

Being ethically conscious and being committed to act ethically is not always enough. In complex situations, which are frequently faced by most of us involved in Human Resource Management, the following reasoning and problem solving skills are also necessary.

(a) Evaluation. The ability to collect and evaluate relevant facts and to know when to stop and how to make prudent decisions based on incomplete and ambiguous facts.

(b) Creativity. The capacity to develop alternative means of accomplishing goals in ways which avoid or minimize ethical problems.

(c) Prediction. The ability to foresee potential consequences of conduct and assess the likelihood or risk that person will be helped or harmed by an act.

THE STAKEHOLDER CONCEPT

A person concerned with being ethical has a moral obligation to consider the ethical implications of all of his or her decision upon others.

Each person, group, institution, constituency or entity that is likely to be affected by the decision is a “stakeholder” with a moral claim on the decision maker.

This stakeholder concept provides a systematic way of perceiving and sorting out the various interests involved in our ethical decision making. Within your organisation the internal stakeholders include your immediate boss, subordinates, supervisors, workers and peers and you will have external stakeholders as well like your customers, suppliers etc and also society at large and others affected by your decision.

The stakeholder concept reinforces our obligation to make all reasonable efforts to foresee possible consequences and take reasonable steps to avoid unjustified harm to innocent stakeholders – an ethical decision maker would never inadvertently cause harm.

A MODEL FOR ETHICAL DECISION MAKING

There is a need to develop a model of ethical decision making that avoids the shortcomings of the traditional approaches such as the Golden Rule (do unto others as you would have them do unto you) and categorical ethical imperatives (higher truths impose absolute moral obligations which must be obeyed regardless of the consequences). This model can be practically applied to common problems found in competitive and stressful management situations.

The three cardinal steps to the ethical decision making include:-

(a) All decisions must take into account and reflect a concern for the interest and well-being of all stakeholders.

(b) Ethical values and principles always take precedence over non-ethical values and principles.

(c) It is ethically proper to violate an ethical principle only when it is clearly necessary to advance another true ethical principle which according to the decision make’s conscience, will produce the greatest balance of good in the long run.

STAGES OF MORAL DEVELOPMENT

The extent to which we use the this approach to ethical decision making to guide our behaviours in management situations will very from person to person. Kohlberg offers a handy framework for delineating the stage each of us has reached with respect to personal moral development.

Stage 1. Physical consequences determine moral behaviour.

At this stage of personal moral development, the individual’s ethical behaviour is driven by the decision to avoid punishment or by deference to power. Punishment is an automatic response of physical retaliation. The immediate physical consequences of an action determine its goodness or badness. Such moral behaviour is seen in cadets at military training academics and old style boarding schools where physical punishment techniques are prevalent with a view to inculcate the attributes of obedience and deference to power.

Stage 2. Individual needs dictate moral behaviour.

At this stage, a person’s needs are the person’s primary concern. The right action consists of what instrumentally satisfies your own needs. People are valued in terms of their utility. Example: “I will help him because he may help me in return – you scratch my back, I will scratch yours.”

Stage 3. Approval of others determines moral behaviour.

This stage is characterized by decision where the approval of others determines the person’s behaviour. Good behaviour is that which pleases or helps others within the group. The good person satisfies family, friends and associates. “Everybody is doing it, so it must be okay.” One earns approval by being conventionally “respectable” and “nice.” Sin is a breach of the expectations of the social order – “log kya kahenge” syndrome and conformance prevails.

Stage 4. Compliance with authority and upholding social order are a person’s primary ethical concerns.

“Doing one’s duty” is the primary concern. Consistency and precedence must be maintained. Example: “I comply with my superior’s instructions because it is wrong to disobey my senior.” Authority is seldom questioned. “Even if I feel that something may be unethical, I will unquestioningly obey all orders and comply with everything my boss says because I believe that the boss is always right.”

Stage 5. Tolerance for rational dissent and acceptance of rule by the majority becomes the primary ethical concern.

Example: “Although I disagree with her views. I will uphold her right to have them.” The right action tends to be defined in terms of general individual rights, and in terms of standards that have been critically examined and agreed upon by the whole society. e.g. the Constitution. The freedom of the individual should be limited by society only when it infringes upon someone else’s freedom.

Stage 6. What is right is viewed as a matter of individual conscience, free choice and personal responsibility for the consequences.

Example: “There is no external threat that can force me to make a decision that I consider morally wrong.” An individual who reaches this stage acts out of universal ethical principles.

Moral development is in no way correlated with intellectual development or your position in the hierarchy or factors like rank, seniority, status, success or wealth. There is a saying: “Honesty and Loyalty may be often more deeply ingrained in the make-up of simple and humble people than in men of high position. A man who was taking bribes when he was a constable does not turn honest when he becomes the Chief of Police. The only thing that changes in the size of the bribe. Weakness of character and inability to withstand temptation remains with the man no matter how high he climbs.” Ethical traits accompany a man to the highest rungs of his career.

If the environment is not conducive, a person can intellectually reach stage 6 but deliberately remain morally at stage 4 as he may find that he has to sacrifice too much to reach stage 6. This can be particularly seen in most hierarchical organizations where most “smart” employees make an outward preference of being at stage 3 or 4 (Conformance and Compliance) to avoid jeopardizing their careers even if internally they have achieved higher ethical states. This Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde schizophrenic moral approach is at the heart of many ethical dilemmas people encounter in their professional lives and results in internal stress due to ethical confusion.

Whenever two individuals at different stages of moral development interact with each other both of them try to force or maneuver the other into their own appreciation of the ethical situation, thus leading to conflict. In a formal hierarchical setup the players in the chain may not be at the similar stage of moral development thereby leading to dissonance in the system. Where the ethical susceptibility is high, morally strong people (less ethically vulnerable) should be appointed and conversely, in such jobs where ethical susceptibility is low, ethically weak persons can be appointed.

What is your stage of personal moral development?

Be honest with yourself and recall the decisions you made in recent ethical situations. The six stages are valuable landmarks as they tell you approximately where you are and what changes you will have to make in your behaviours and decisions to move to a higher level of moral development. The ultimate goal is to engage in ethical decision making at stage 6. However, the level that you do reach will depend on your ethical commitment, your ethical consciousness and your ethical competence.

FIVE TYPES OF EMPLOYEES

The stage of moral development manifest in five types of employees in organizations. Sheep are employees who do not play an active role in the organization and are passive followers who simply comply with any order or directive given to them. Yes Men are active followers (Sycophants) who readily carry out orders uncritically; they support the bosses’ egos but their extreme obedience can sometimes be dangerous if the orders are unethical or violate laws. Alienated Followers are the critics of the organization who point out negative aspects but refuse to actively improve the system. Effective Followers play an active role in the organization but are not Yes Men; they critically assess and respectfully challenge organizational authority and propose constructive alternative. Effective followers can play a vital role in enhancing organizational performance through their wisdom. Survivors are followers who get by the work minimal investment and risk exposure in the work environment. With the advent of reengineering, restructuring and downsizing, survivors become better at keeping their jobs than doing their jobs well by carefully cultivating multiple images in order to appear to be the kind of follower the current leader wants.

What type of employee are you? Where do you fit in? Do you remain one type or change from situation to situation like a chameleon? What about your colleagues? Have a look in your organisation. It may be interesting to develop linkages between the above types and stages of moral development.

ETHICAL SUSCEPTIBILITY AND VULNERABILITY

Ethical Susceptibility is the inability to avoid ethical dilemmas. It is environment dependent (on external factors).

Ethical Vulnerability is your inability to withstand succumbing in the given ethical dilemmas /situations. It is dependent on your internal stage of moral development in the given ethical situation.

Whereas being in an ethical dilemma is not in your control, to act in a proper and ethical manner in the prevailing situation is certainly in your control.

Ethical vulnerability is the ease with which a man be ethically compromised, especially in an ethically poor climate.

Where the ethical susceptibility is high, morally strong people (less vulnerable) should be appointed and conversely, in such jobs where ethical susceptibility is low, morally weaker persons can be appointed.

The aim of Human Resource Management in an organisation should be to facilitate and encourage all employees to achieve at least stage 4 of the moral development grid in order to enable them to be effective followers.

HR practices of the Adam Smith style which use fear and a sense of insecurity as motivators are akin to treating employees like slaves and will proliferate sheep type of employees. Over emphasis on disciplinary action, threats of transfer are examples of motivators which attempt to cow down an employee into stage 1. Over-reliance on Motivation as motivator corresponds to stage 2 and this may become a standard operating practice to motivate and facilitate yes-men as will stage 3 motivation techniques.

Unless one has achieved the ultimate stage of moral development (conscience and free will) each of us is in a state of moral flux and workplace environment and personal circumstances may force a man to fluctuate between stages of moral development (conscience and free will) each of us in a state of moral flux and workplace environment and personal circumstances may force a man to fluctuate between stages of moral development depending on the situation and he may tend to practice what is called situational ethics like the survivor type of employee. A proactive, fair and transparent HR System will reduce the need for situational ethics. It is for the top management to decide which type of employee you want for which job and tailor HR practices accordingly. Mismatches can be dangerous. The ideal aim is to have effective followers in the organisation which is feasible both through apt HR initiatives.

In a nutshell, we have to focus on ethically susceptible jobs, reduce ethical vulnerability thereby facilitating ethical conduct and gradually extend ethical HR initiatives throughout the organisation with a view to achieving consonance in ethical perspectives of all stakeholders.

ETHICAL DILEMMA

Ethical Magnitude is the extent the organization will perceive an ethical dilemma. Significance is the extent the individual will perceive on ethical dilemma. Examples of ethical dilemmas in the four ethical dilemma domains are :-

Domain 1 (Low significance high magnitude) Organizational romance, petty corruption

Domain 2 (How significance high magnitude) Sexual harassment, grand corruption

Domain 3 (Low significance low magnitude) Misuse of official transport

Domain 4 (High significance low magnitude) Transfer / Relocation


ETHICAL HUMAN RESOURCE MANAGEMENT IN ORGANISATIONS

Operating at the fourth stage of moral development by managers is likely to intensify the preoccupation of Human Resource (HR) specialists and line managers with demonstrating procedural fairness in their human resource practices. The agenda will increasingly becoming one of “showing that justice has been done” in decisions. Over regulation and escalating litigation can encourage an employee relations environment where HR practitioners and line managers alike place the emphasis on adhering to processes developed to demonstrate moral neutrality as a means of defending managerial decision making. This results in a heavily “proceduralised” approach, which can be at the cost of investing in interpersonal relationships that are more conducive to positive interpersonal relationships and individual feelings of fair treatment.

Any time one human being intervenes in the life of another human being directly or indirectly, on ethical situation arises. Ethical situations are frequently charged with emotions. Any attempt to apply quantities, systematic, impersonal, objective or logical decision making techniques may not yield desired result and are not advisable.

Although the levels of compliance are commendable, managers should do more in terms of their ethical decision-making and ethical behaviours.

Ethics is more than a set of rules what to say and what to do, or of what to avoid and what to overlook. It involves judgments that only those facing those decisions can make. Therefore, ethical management has to mean more than simply laws prohibiting certain actions. It must be a spirit, an imbued code of conduct, an ethos. There must be a climate in which everyone understand that some conduct is correct and other conduct is clearly unacceptable.

For example, reflect upon the code of conduct followed at West Point: Cadets shall not lie, cheat, steal or tolerate those who do

Can you implement such a code of conduct in your organisation, especially the last part about not tolerating those who do unethical activities or indulge in unethical conduct.

As a person who is responsible for fulfilling trust and as a person who is fundamentally good and ethical, it is your duty to make your ethical decisions at the highest possible stage of moral development. Once the majority of us operate at the highest stage of moral development, the frequency of unethical acts will be close to zero which will result in total mutual trust and confidence which is a sine qua non for optimal Human Resource Management and Harmony in organisations.

VIKRAM KARVE
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VIKRAM KARVE educated at IIT Delhi, ITBHU Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale, and Bishop's School Pune, is an Electronics and Communications Engineer by profession, a Human Resource Manager and Trainer by occupation, a Teacher by vocation, a Creative Writer by inclination and a Foodie by passion. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles in magazines and journals for many years before the advent of blogging. His delicious foodie blogs have been compiled in a book "Appetite for a Stroll". A collection of his short stories about relationships titled COCKTAIL has been published and Vikram is currently busy writing his first novel and with his teaching and training assignments. Vikram lives in Pune with his family and his muse – his pet DobermanX girl Sherry, with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

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